We are about to start the holiday season and you are probably already going crazy making your gift lists and trying to plan for them to be original and wonderful. Our friends from ActitudFem share a guide with us: For all those who just started a relationship, this process can be quite complex, as questions arise like: How big should it be? How personal? How expensive? That’s why we give you 5 tips so you don’t lose your head (or your wallet) when buying the perfect gift for your partner:

1. Think it through and plan

If you have been dating him for less than 3 months, you probably shouldn’t give something very luxurious or expensive, but you also don’t have the confidence to give a very personal gift. Depending on the level of intimacy you already have, give him something that lets him know you pay attention to his dreams or favorite sports teams. Is your guy a passionate movie buff? Does he love watching NFL games? Remember his talks and buy something he will actually use.

2. Don’t stress

If you are going to take your guy to a gift exchange with your friends, don’t put too much pressure on him and try to relax. Any gift will be good and remember that many men don’t have the creativity gene, so don’t worry about situations that will be out of your control and enjoy the festivities!

3. Don’t break the piggy bank

No gadget or video game will make your new guy more interested in you, other than your attitude. So forget about giving expensive and luxurious gifts to someone you are just beginning to know. No matter how charitable you feel, men feel pressured by this type of detail, and in times of crisis, no one puts a price on your affection.

4. It’s all in the details

What habits does he have? Does he love coffee, adore carrot cupcakes, and you know he just lost his phone case? Create a kit! He will love that you paid attention to those offhand comments he made and it will be a practical gift that will let him know you listen and remember; men look for simplicity, the more practical the gifts, the better.

5. Lower your expectations

No matter how much you have mentioned that you hate teddy bears or your subtle hints about wanting a few days off to go to the beach, it’s possible that your new partner hasn’t picked up on any of your subliminal messages. When it comes to men, we should consider gifts as a surprise and be happy with the decision they make; if it’s really terrible, don’t say it to his face; you will have time to change it later. See original article

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