Spoiling is an art that mothers develop as our children win battles that, most of the time, we start ourselves and lose against the exhaustion that comes from fighting against our own decisions. Here are some signs that indicate a spoiled child: 1- They ignore you No matter what you ask, it seems like you’re talking to a wall, and sometimes you doubt whether they are doing it on purpose or actually have a hearing problem. 2- You have to bribe them To get them to do something they should do by themselves, you promise them an outing or a toy. However, you end up doing what you asked for, tired of not achieving your goal. 3- You have to beg them "Please" is one of the phrases you use the most throughout the day, and you still don't achieve your goal. In the end, you pray to all the saints not to put them in the washing machine after asking them for two hours to go take a bath. 4- They try to control adults They give orders as if they were the managers of the family, and if they don’t get their way, they throw a tantrum. 5- Tantrums are frequent Any negative response from us can trigger an unbearable tantrum. If we try to calm them down and understand the reason for their anger, they increase their crying with kicks and punches. 6- They embarrass you in public Since the tantrum works for them, they don’t distinguish the setting and throw a fit in the middle of the street when we deny them one more treat at the kiosk, making us look like the bad guys in front of passersby. 7- They are never satisfied Despite going out of our way to give them what they want, it is never enough for them. It generates guilt and frustration, making us wonder if we are doing things right. 8- They don’t help around the house Finally, exhausted from asking them to pick up their toys or take their cup to the sink, we end up doing it ourselves to avoid adding more items to this list. A bit jokingly, a bit seriously, this list compiles the most common behaviors exhibited by kids -spoiled or not- and they are some of the things we need to work on as parents to prevent our children from becoming little tyrants. Each of these points can be worked on with them and especially with ourselves, to foster healthier behaviors and reactions to each problem. Becoming aware that these behaviors generate bad habits is the first step to learning how to find ways to resolve them before wanting to donate them to charity.

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